Intrinsicly Corporate (yours truly!), the phrase "goal setting" is exhausted with over-use and under-performance, suggesting inflexibile and misinformed paperwork, prepared and argued upon once a year, then shelved till its time to "explain"...variances that is!
Re-learning how to approach "goal-getting" from the point of view of where we are in our "stages of change" , re-introduced me to an extremely useful concept, and answered a nagging question that was brought up in an earlier post regarding the "source" of our ambitions!
In short, the act of "writing down our plans" can only be effective "AFTER" the build-up of a certain level of "commitment" and "feelings" around the outcome.
And, as "commitment" is the thermo-indicator of the "relevance" that a certain GOAL has to our "values", finding ourselves constantly snuggled between "wanting to change" and "preparing for it", questions not just the level of such a commitment, but also the relevance that those goals have to our motivational system...
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2 years ago
That is very true. I've talked to my friend the other day, She's very effective in achieving her goals, and she said: "you've got to be focused", It seems that "commitment" and "feelings" an the whole motivational system you are writing about has a lot to do with it. All the best, talk to you soon,
ReplyDelete"finding ourselves constantly snuggled between "wanting to change" and "preparing for it", questions not just the level of such a commitment, but also the relevance that those goals have to our motivational system..."
ReplyDeleteso so true and as your friend said above, you've got to be focused :)
love your writings Ruby
Alina, your post on "I really want to do this, but"... really stayed with me, I think its one of the best self-coaching techniques that I learned ever... thanks for your feedback and i look forward to talking to you!
ReplyDeleteMayyoos, thanks dear and i love your feedback :) you are such a determined person Mais, I was wondering, what is the one thing that keeps you focused (What thoughts come to your mind?)
ReplyDeletehabibti enti..you say i'm a determined person well look at you :)
ReplyDeletei think what keeps me focused is viewing the target I want to reach or the achievement…
i have developed a habit since I was a kid and I think it’s helping somehow, it’s day dreaming.
Whenever I want something so bad I keep on picturing it, imagining all the details related to it, how it looks, feels, smells…etc…and I keep on rewinding this in my mind over and over again, adding another detail here or there every now and then….another thing is breaking my big goal into small, achievable, time framed an realistic goals, so achieving them keeps me motivated :)
i'm not saying i always work by a plan and i'm always that focused..of course i have those days when i'm down and don't feel like concentrating on anything...but i try not to let it last for so long..
Wow brilliant Mais, you just summed it up, you use both your imagination and step-by-step approach... I am in high need for this today trying to keep my eye on my GOALs and juggling their mile-stones, kisses dear and thanks!
ReplyDeleteOh wow...goal getting versus goal setting...powerful stuff!
ReplyDeletelooks like a "power tool" already :), thanks Cassandra!!
ReplyDeleteOh it would be a wonderful power tool! And then it would be a great "freebie" to use on your website when people sign up for your newsletter :~)
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